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Common Men's Anxiety Issues

Does worry ever take over, and it is difficult to let go? If we keep thinking about a potential problem, we can be proactive and find all the ways to prevent it (we tell ourselves). Our brains perceive stress, anxiety, and worrisome potential events as if they are actually happening. And the actual events are typically not nearly as bad as our worries. Wouldn’t it be better to spend less time trying to rid ourselves of uncertainty and more time trying to tolerate uncertainty better? Negative thoughts can cause us to experience potential worst-case scenarios that are not rooted in evidence.

Common Stress and Anxiety Related Conditions
General Anxiety Disorder (GAD)

This is the most common anxiety disorder overall, and although women are twice as likely to be diagnosed, it affects men significantly as well. It involves excessive worry and fear about many things, not just one specific issue.

Social Anxiety Disorder

 This involves intense stress and fear in social situations, such as public speaking or meeting new people. Interestingly, men might mask social anxiety with behaviors like anger or aggression.

Performance Anxiety

 This is stress related to specific situations where someone feels they are being judged, like work presentations or athletic events. In fact, men may feel pressure to perform well due to societal expectations, leading to increased anxiety.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

This involves intrusive thoughts (obsessions) and repetitive behaviors (compulsions) that aim to reduce anxiety. While often associated with cleanliness, OCD can manifest in various ways.

Additionally, several factors can contribute to anxiety in men:

  • Traditional Masculinity: Societal expectations of being “strong” and stoic can make it difficult for men to express their emotions and seek help, leading to internalized stress.
  • Work Stress: Financial burdens, job performance pressure, and competitiveness can be significant sources of anxiety for men.
  • Relationship Issues: Stress in relationships, breakups, or difficulty expressing emotions can contribute to anxiety.
  • Trauma: Like anyone, men who have experienced traumatic events are more likely to develop anxiety.

It’s important to remember:

  • These are just a few common examples, and anxiety can manifest differently in each individual.
  • Men are just as likely to experience anxiety as women, and seeking help is crucial for managing it.
  • There are effective treatments available, including therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes.

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Stress and Anxiety are Normal

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  • It’s common: Stress and anxiety are incredibly common experiences. In fact, most people experience them at some point in their lives. Recognizing this can help reduce feelings of shame or isolation.
  • It’s a response: Often, stress and anxiety are normal responses to challenging situations. Understanding the triggers and learning to manage your response can be helpful.
  • Acceptance is key: Trying to completely eliminate stress and anxiety is unrealistic. Accepting their presence and focusing on management can be more effective.

Solutions for Men's Stress and Anxiety Concerns

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  • Self-care practices: Activities like exercise, mindfulness meditation, spending time in nature, and getting enough sleep can all help regulate stress and anxiety.
  • Relaxation techniques: Deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualization can help your body and mind relax in the moment.
  • Cognitive reframing (CBT): Challenge negative thought patterns that contribute to anxiety. Reframing situations in a more positive light can reduce their emotional impact.
  • Seek support: Talking to a therapist or counselor can provide valuable tools and coping mechanisms for managing stress and anxiety.
  • Support through EMDR: EMDR focuses on processing past experiences and associated emotions, particularly those contributing to anxiety. This can include traumatic events, negative beliefs, or distressing memories
  • Help through CBT: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can help people reframe negative thoughts.
  • Somatic Techniques: Expressive Arts, EMDR, and somatic techniques can be combined to create a powerful support method.


  • Recognize limitations: Some stress and anxiety can be overwhelming and require professional help. If your symptoms are severe or interfere with daily life, please seek professional support from a therapist or mental health professional.
  • Individualized approach: What works for one person might not work for another. Experiment and find what management strategies work best for you.
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Finding Strength and Hope Through Counseling: A Message for Men

Men, navigating life’s challenges can feel overwhelming, isolating, and even shameful. You might be burdened by unspoken pressures, societal expectations, or internal struggles that furthermore make seeking help feel impossible.  But here’s the key takeaway: you are not alone, and there is hope. Counseling isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a courageous step towards understanding yourself better and building a more fulfilling life.

Imagine this:

  • Feeling lighter: Releasing emotional baggage you’ve carried for too long and experiencing the freedom of open expression.

  • Stronger relationships: Learning healthy communication skills and navigating conflicts with confidence allows you to connect more deeply with loved ones.

  • Greater control: Developing tools to manage stress, anxiety, or anger, empowering you to respond to challenges calmly and effectively.

  • Rediscovering joy: Uncovering your passions, building self-compassion, and finding genuine happiness in who you are.

Counseling provides a safe space to explore these possibilities. In other words, a therapist acts as your guide, not a judge, patiently listening without judgment and offering personalized support. It’s a collaboration to uncover your strengths, identify areas for growth, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.


  • You deserve happiness: Don’t let stigma or fear prevent you from pursuing a life filled with well-being and fulfillment.

  • Strength comes in many forms: Seeking help is an act of courage and self-care, demonstrating your commitment to a better future.

  • Change is possible: With dedicated effort and the right support, you can overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

What if I Have Doubts?

Common Objections Men Have About Anxiety Therapy

Objection: Therapy is for weak people.

Response: Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health. It shows strength and self-awareness to seek help when you need it. Many successful men prioritize therapy to maintain their mental well-being and performance.

Objection: Talking about my feelings makes me feel awkward.

Response: Therapy isn't just about emotional venting. It's about processing experiences, understanding triggers, and learning practical skills. Therapists create a safe space for open communication without judgment.

Objection: I can tough it out on my own.

Response: While self-reliance is admirable, sometimes external support is necessary. Just like you wouldn't ignore a physical injury, seeking help for mental health is equally important. Early intervention can prevent issues from worsening.

Objection: Therapy is too expensive.

Response: Explore options like group therapy, online therapy, or therapists like me who offer sliding scales based on income. Consider therapy an investment in your well-being, potentially improving your work performance, relationships, and overall happiness.

Objection: Men shouldn't show emotions.

Response: Bottling up emotions can be detrimental. Expressing feelings in a health way is crucial for emotional well-being. Therapy can help you identify and express emotions constructive, not just verbally.

Objection: What if my friends and family find out.

Response: Therapy is confidential. You choose what you share with others. Seeking help is nothing to be ashamed of, and supportive friends and family will likely appreciate your proactive approach to self-care.

Objection: I don't have the time.

Response: Therapy sessions typically last an hour, and online options offer flexibility. Consider it an investment in your well-being and productivity. Reducing anxiety can actually free up time and energy in the long run.

Evidence Supporting EMDR for Anxiety

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has shown promise in treating anxiety, albeit with different approaches and varying levels of evidence. Here’s a breakdown:

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR):

  • Moderately strong evidence: EMDR is recognized as an effective treatment for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which often presents with anxiety symptoms. Studies have shown EMDR can also reduce anxiety in individuals without PTSD, but the evidence is not as strong as for PTSD.
  • Mechanisms: EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (e.g., eye movements) to help reprocess traumatic memories and reduce their emotional impact. This can alleviate anxiety associated with past experiences.
  • Limitations: The exact mechanisms of EMDR are still under investigation, and its effectiveness may vary depending on the specific anxiety disorder and individual factors.

Why Choose Revive Counseling for Anxiety Therapy?

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There is a wealth of evidence supporting the effectiveness of counseling in managing anxiety. In addition to EMDR, here are some key points:

Overall Effectiveness:

  • Analysis of multiple studies: Numerous studies have combined research findings through, concluding that psychotherapy in general is highly effective in treating anxiety disorders, with effect sizes comparable to medication.
  • Specific therapies: Therapies like exposure therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) have been extensively researched and demonstrate strong efficacy for various anxiety disorders.


Benefits of Using Revive Counseling for Anxiety Treatment
  • Reduced symptoms: Research consistently shows that counseling significantly reduces anxiety symptoms, including worry, fear, physical symptoms, and overall impairment.
  • Long-lasting effects: Counseling benefits tend to be long-lasting, with improvements often maintained even after treatment ends.
  • Functional improvement: Beyond symptom reduction, counseling can lead to improved quality of life, social functioning, and overall well-being.

Specific Examples:

  • Exposure therapy: A 2015 review concluded that exposure therapy (may include EMDR) is an effective treatment for phobias, anxiety disorders, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
  • ACT: A 2016 analysis found ACT to be effective in reducing anxiety symptoms and improving the quality of life in adults with various anxiety disorders.

Important Notes:

  • Individual variability: Individual responses to counseling can vary, and some people may benefit more than others. Finding the right therapist and therapy approach is crucial.
  • Combination approaches: In some cases, combining counseling with medication or other treatment options may be recommended for optimal results.
  • Professional guidance: Consult a licensed mental health professional for personalized assessment and recommendations on the most suitable approach for your specific needs.